Some mothers look horrified when I mention that I made my boys ride their bikes to school starting in junior high. The traffic! The kidnapping pedophiles! And what about those heavy backpacks!?
Others raised eyebrows when I told them it was inappropriate (not to mention completely emasculating) to drag boys older than about five into the women's restroom. My kids starting going to the men's room by themselves, with me waiting outside the door, around the time they entered first grade.
But the killers! The dirty men! And what about those kidnapping pedophiles?!
You know what? My children gained some independence, I began the reasonable and wholly necessary process of letting them grow up and we all lived to tell the tale.
My parenting philosophy may offend some, but it jibes fully with that of Lenore Skenazy, who is
interviewed in Salon today.
Skenazy is a columnist, author and blogger at
FreeRangeKids, where she argues that children today are just as safe as we were in the '60s and '70s, according to crime stats. But despite reality, nervous parents protect them like they are always seconds away from disaster.
Why the disconnect? The answer may partly lie in the pervasive, over-hyped, over-heated scare mongering that comes mostly from cable television. Sociologist and media critic Eric Klinenberg, son of my good buddy Ed Klinenberg, was interviewed on
NPR's On The Media program last weekend about the panic (or non-panic, as it turns out) around swine flu. It's very telling, and also quite funny.
Are your kids free range or do you keep them cooped up?